Pop Chinese, 男朋友总嫌我胖我丑，要不要分手？

My boyfriend calls me ugly and fat. Should we break up?

男朋友总嫌我胖我丑，要不要分手？

My boyfriend is actually a decent, nice guy. Often times, he calls me ugly and fat and wish that I could change my face and appearance but keep my heart/attitude. I think it is hurtful but he thinks that he should speak what he thinks of me. Should I break up with him?
我男朋友是一个正派好男人。不过他总说我又肥又丑，他希望我改变外观但保有本心。我觉得他说的话很伤人，但他认为应该告诉我他对我的想法。我应该跟他分手吗？

Lara l Lord

Decent, nice guys do not say those things. They do not call people they care about ugly or fat, and they definitely don't want to change their appearance just because. Those are things abusive jerks say to their victims.
正派的好男人就不会这样说了。好男人不会对自己在意的人说你又丑又肥，他们不会想要改变在意之人的外表。这样说真的很混蛋。

They also don't claim to be speaking their mind when insulting someone they are in a romantic relationship with.
他们也不会在侮辱了所爱之人后，坚称自己是在表达内心的真实想法。

Yes, you should break up. You should also give yourself some time to heal from the damage his words have caused, possibly even seek some counseling to help with that.
毫无疑问你应该分手。你还要给自己一些时间从他那些伤人的话语中走出来，也许你可以寻求一些咨询帮助。

Karen Tiede

If it's not enough that he calls you ugly, how are you going to feel when he calls your daughter ugly?
如果你觉得他说你丑还不够的话，那就想想当你听到他说你的女儿丑你是什么感觉。

He should speak what he thinks of you, and you should be relieved that you found out what he thinks of you before the wedding and before any children. (You don't have children, yet, please?)
他应该把自己的想法说出来，你也应该庆幸在与他结婚生子之前，你知道了他的真实想法。(你们应该还没有孩子吧？)

Marcus Geduld

In your shoes, I would. You say he's a decent, nice guy, which confuses me, because a major part of being decent and nice is striving to not hurt people's feelings, especially people you care about.
如果我是你，我会分手。你说他是一个正派的好男人，这让我觉得很困惑，因为好人的定义之一就是不伤害其他人的感情，尤其是你在乎之人的感情。

I don't stay in relationships–even with acquaintances–with people who insult me.
我就不会跟那些侮辱我的人保持联系。

Dharish Kevrani

'Should I Break up ?' Is that still a question in your head ?
“我应该分手吗？”这在你的脑海中还是个问题？

Hell YES ! You should've done it long back. Because of girls like you who think of giving such jerks an extra chance to be compatible ,the actual 'nice' guys who respects females & deserve to be loved & cared are all alone. They are the guys who actually don't even know how it feels being loved because Girls like you are busy giving those jerks a "Second" chance.
当然应该分！你早就该这么做了。就是因为像你这样的女孩子认为可以再给这些混蛋一次机会，那些真正尊重女性、值得被爱并且懂得关心他人的好男人才会单身。这些好男人都不知道被你这样的女孩子爱着是什么感觉，因为你这样的女孩子都忙着给那些混蛋“第二次”机会。

This is very much true these days ,that all the nice girls go for Jerks & nice guys don't have anyone to love
现如今的社会都是好女孩爱着混蛋，好男人没人爱。(对于我来说，世界上没有丑女孩，每个女孩子都有自己独特的美，你很漂亮:) Tc)

Mendel Cooper

Tell him that …
你跟他说：

You wished he earned more money.
Had broader shoulders.
Had a bigger penis.
1、你希望他多赚点钱。
2、他的肩膀更宽阔。
3、铅笔更大。

Sven Forrest

If he is honest, you think he is right.
如果他说了实话，而你又觉得他是对的。

So here is what I would do, I would loose weight, and be as beautiful as I can be (for me and my health.) And then dump him.
那么换了我，我就会减肥然后尽可能变漂亮(为了我自己)。然后踹了他。